BREAK THE SHACKLES
But
the funny thing is, we rarely stop to take stock of these beliefs, let alone
question their validity. We may not even realize it, but for better or worse,
our beliefs are silently at work in our lives every day.
The
larger question isn’t which beliefs are right or wrong; it’s how do our beliefs
affect our lives? Are they having a positive impact or a negative impact, and
if they’re negative, how can we replace our negative beliefs with more positive
ones.
HOW
CAN WE BREAK OUT
Those are the questions I want to address today, but
first, let’s further define what a belief system is.
At
its core, a belief system is really just a set of beliefs about what is right
and wrong, and true or false, and this set of beliefs is a collection of
thoughts and feelings on tens of thousands of topics. Maybe more!
Why
so many people have actually not made much success or break more frontiers in
life is due to the set of beliefs they have harbored and grown up with overtime
which have formed the basis of their actions and reactions.
So, if we look at this, a belief is nothing more than our ability to accept something as
true. And as we all know from our childhood beliefs around
Santa, imaginary friends, and monsters in the closet, something doesn’t have to be real for us to believe in it.
Being associated with a group or
a label based on our beliefs is not a bad thing unless, of course,
our beliefs cause us to mislabel ourselves in some negative way.
Throughout our lives, we tend to
adopt countless beliefs and labels that ARE, in fact, harmful to ourselves.
“I’m inadequate.”
“I’m unlovable.”
“I’m a loser.”
“I’m weak.”
“I’m a failure.”
“I’m not enough.”
Be honest, have you ever thought
any of those things before? CAN YOU BREAK OUT and be free from THE SCHACKLES?
Real talk: I have, and these
labels are a load of belief systems that are caused by too many negative
beliefs running wild in our lives.
We are adequate, lovable, and
strong. We’re not losers or failures, and we are enough.
So, with that in mind, let’s
make a change, shall we? Let’s take a look at how negative beliefs play a
harmful role in our lives and how we can overcome our own B.S. (see what I did
there?)
Positive Beliefs vs. Negative
Beliefs
As we’ve seen from the
definitions above, beliefs are no more than thoughts that we tend to think over
and over. Many of these beliefs come from our culture—we’re raised with them
from birth.
Some of them are familiar, we’re raised with those too. Some are good, healthy
beliefs.
“I can do anything I set my mind
to.”
“Failure builds character.”
“My job does not define my
value.”
“The greatest risk is to do
nothing.”
“There is no such thing as
perfection.”
“Everyone is different. I’m free
to be me.”
But beliefs are not all
positive. In fact, many are destructive, limiting, and oppressive.
Have you ever caught yourself
asking yourself things like:
“I can’t write a book or start a
blog. No one cares what I have to say.”
“I can’t do that. I just don’t
have the talent, skills, or intelligence.”
“I could never do what they can
do. They’re just way more talented than me.”
“I’ll never have a lot of money.
I just wasn’t born into the right circumstances.”
“Not everyone can live their
dream life. Some of us just have to settle for less.”
Sorry for the depressing list of
questions, but you get the picture. Not all beliefs are good. But, if these
beliefs are so bad, why can’t we just forget them and leave them behind?
How
to Examine and Reprogram our Belief Systems
Again, I’m no expert, but I, like many others,
experience my fair share of negative beliefs—we’re all human, after all, and we
can’t undo a lifetime of encoding overnight. (Trust me; sometimes I wish we
could.)
The first thing you need to do to begin identifying
and rebuilding your belief system is to be able to recognize negative beliefs
in the moment and when they’re happening. Then, you can start to question the
beliefs. After that, you can begin to adopt new beliefs that override the old
ones.
Let’s take a look at this.
1.
Recognizing Negative Beliefs When they Occur
To learn to spot your negative beliefs, you need to
pay careful attention to how you’re feeling. Are you anxious, scared, mad,
frustrated, sad, or are you feeling depressed?
Are
you beating yourself up or berating yourself in your mind? Are you talking to yourself
like you would never dare speak to another person? CAN YOU PLEASE BREAK OUT?
Are you asking yourself “what if” over and over
again, as if to discover something you could have done better in a situation
that’s long gone? Are you suddenly questioning several of your past decisions
or even the current path you’re on?
When we’re in this kind of frantic state of mind, though, it’s difficult to overcome our emotional state with logic or reason, but if you can slowly begin to recognize your negative self talk you can start to question it. To do this, we need to take some time to think about our negative beliefs with a clear state of mind.
When you’re calm, think back to times of turmoil in
your life—back to a particularly bad day filled with harmful self-talk. It
could have been at work, at home, with friends, or while you were alone—it
doesn’t matter. It could have been today, last week, or last month. Just try to
think back on a time when you were experiencing some of the thought patterns I
outlined above. Yours may have been different, but I trust that you know what
kind of thoughts we’re looking for here.
If
you’re able to revisit such a time in your life, take a small step back and
ask, “why did I feel that way?” And try not to accept the first easy answer
that comes to mind. “I was upset with myself because I was having a bad day.
That’s all. Just a bad day.”
No, no, you have to go deeper.
This process can take a lot of deep reflection, and
it might even be somewhat painful, but try to push yourself to connect with
your genuine emotions. The deeper you can go, the closer to your belief system
you can get.
2.
Define, Describe, and Name the Belief
When you get close to your beliefs, close enough to
recognize them clearly, describe them to yourself, or give them a name if you
can.
One
of my old beliefs was that I didn’t have enough experience to help people and
that few people would ever find value in anything I had to say (This belief is
commonly known as imposter syndrome).
Aside
the vibes and fire you have seen Daniel A. Oluwayiose pour out, I had that fear…
I was just courageous at every point I dispense my fire.
I
had a belief that to borrow money to do stuffs was a bit of a normal way of
life even this took me long time to discover it was a belief which I was born
into and it dealt with me severely to the point that my core values and personality
was taunted.
Beliefs
end up forming something like curse, struggle and pain in our lives and on
different levels. So many people who are oppressed, depressed and frustrated
actually just need a change of belief and not necessarily a spiritual war fare
to engage in.
THAT
YOU MAY BE DELIVERED FROM THE SCHACKLES OF YOUR BELIEFS… CAN YOU BREAK OUT?
3. Rebuilding a Positive Belief System
I used to suffer from imposter syndrome (not so
seriously and visible though). I resisted starting this blog, writing my book, taking a step
making a post and speaking in public because I didn’t think I knew enough to
help people (but the Lord is always our sufficiency).
Who knows; I hope I’m helping you right this very
minute.
A couple of years ago, I learned to spot my imposter
syndrome, and now, when it pops up in my life, I can confidently say to myself,
“You are not an imposter. You know enough to help someone, and someone out
there values your message.”
MY
DEAR, CAN YOU BREAK OUT AND BE FREE?
No
matter how many laws of success you have learnt overtime, no amount of skills
you have, no matter how wide your network is, if your believe is just to have a
two bedroom flat with your family and enjoy your little life, you will struggle
to get the two bedroom flat and tag it as success where as, you could have
achieved more only if you believe YOU ARE MORE…
CAN
YOU BREAK OUT?
Maybe you suffer from the fear of failure. Okay, now that you know what
your fear is and can see it for what it is, you can work towards replacing that
belief with a new one like this: failure is a vital step on the path to
success. With every failure, we learn, and while we’re learning, we’re getting
closer to success. (Yeah, I’m working on overcoming this belief, too.)
Once you take step back, shine a light on your
negative belief, and craft a new belief by which to live by, you can slowly
begin to introduce it to your life. When you start to feel the negative belief
surge up in your mind, take a deep breath and start thinking about your new
belief. Keep reciting it until you can calm down.
Over time, this will become easier and easier. It
just takes time and practice, so be patient with yourself.
Crush
Your Negative Beliefs And Break Out
When it comes to replacing a negative belief system,
knowing is truly half the battle. After going through this session of education
and ignition, I hope you feel empowered to start crushing your negative beliefs
today.
It
will take time, and the old beliefs may never be truly gone, but you’ll be well
on your way towards releasing the power they have over you.
It's not easy to redefine what you believe. But without
performing a "housecleaning" at regular intervals throughout life,
you may find it difficult to identify your route to true contentment.
The secret is to believe in your potential and be fearless
about discarding the old, limiting beliefs that imprison your mind, while
upholding the beliefs that empower you. Your prevailing beliefs or "mental
models" are there, waiting in the shadows. Only by examining them, fully
understanding and becoming conscious of them do you have any real chance
to change restrictive beliefs.
THE PROCESS WILL NOT BE
EASY… THE PAIN MAY BE MUCH AS YOU TRAIL THE PATH… BUT BE ASSURED OF THE VICTORY
AFTERWARDS…
BELOVED…
BREAK OUT AND BE FREE
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